Slut Shaming – The Amber Rose Story

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So I chanced on this piece online from lydiaforson.com and I thought it would be a good read so as to know how bad they felt when people make a harsh comments about them. A lot of times people forget celebrities are people who’s lives and laid bare because of their profession at the end of the day they are still human, with emotions. We assumed that they are some how super heroes who have an automatic switch that they put on or off whenever people make comments  about them.

Below is the experience of  Lydia Forson from Ambeer Rose slut walk.

Lydia Forson
Reading this piece on Amber Rose and her slut walk pretty much summed up how I’ve been feeling for a while now. A lot of times people forget that those of us in the limelight are human like everyone else.

Its easy to think we’re “special” and have no feelings. But we cry, hurt, laugh and have bad days like everyone else.

The only difference between us is that millions of people get to watch us go through all of life’s struggles because of our job.

So before you attack any public figure, stop and ask yourself if you’ll be able to take the same things said about you.

Anyway, this post isn’t just about how people generally attack celebrities or public figures, it’s more about the need to slut shame a woman when you don’t agree with her or her lifestyle.

It’s the sexism that rules and will probably continue to rule the world for years to come. The assumption that every woman who doesn’t live by societies standards is a slut and as such shouldn’t be taken seriously.

We need to ask ourselves why we can’t comment or have an opinion about a woman without bringing her sexuality, lifestyle and married life into the discussion. Sadly women do it too, because we’ve feed into the ideas of what a real woman is, or what a respectful woman should be like. And we’ve forgotten that a lot of these standards have been created by men who have no understanding of what it’s like to walk in our shoes.

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Amber Rose is many things—a former hip-hop wife, a video vixen, a mother.

She is a woman who experienced her first “slut-shaming” at the young age of 14, made a living by becoming a stripper and fell in love with some of the most famous rappers on earth. But sometimes, because it’s Amber—a woman who many feel is famous simply for romping with A-listers—it’s easy to forget that she’s a woman who deserves our respect, too.

I had forgotten that.





I consider myself an unashamed feminist. Are you someone who wants to eat, breathe and sleep her career? I support you. Are you someone who dreams of being a stay-at-home mom at your idyllic cottage in the ‘burbs? I support you, too. You do you.

But much to my chagrin, every once in a while, I subconsciously let a little judgment slip in. Exhibit A: Amber

Up until yesterday, my knowledge of Amber had been strictly curated by malicious stories that seemed to only confirm her “slut status” (remember earlier this year when her ex Kanye West said that he had to take 30 showers before sleeping with Kim Kardashian because “it’s very hard for a woman to want to be with someone that’s with Amber Rose”?).

I’ll admit it: I had been brainwashed by the headlines.

However, after hearing Amber’s speech yesterday at her SlutWalk in Los Angeles, in which she encouraged women to take back ownership of their bodies, I was yanked back down to my feminist earth. During her painfully honest speech at the festivities, Amber told the cheering crowds that she never dated a man seeking stardom; she simply dated a man because that’s what her heart wanted. At one point, she became overwhelmed as she recalled Wiz Khalifa, the father of her son and the love of her life, referring to her as a stripper in one of his songs.

“To be told that I was nothing but a stripper… it hurt,” she said tearfully.

Watching her speech, I was reminded that Amber is not a Hollywood cyborg. She is a person. She sees the same headlines that we are blasted with on a daily basis, but while we can keep on scrolling (and pass judgment), this is her life. And her lifestyle—or anyone’s for that matter—isn’t an open invitation for scrutiny.

It’s easy to judge. It’s easy to slut-shame. It’s even easier to forget that Amber is a mother—and someone’s daughter. But what’s not easy is taking a step back and realizing that everyone is human. Everyone should be treated as such. Everyone has feelings and deserves respect.

Even Amber Rose.

Credit: Lydia Forson

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